Last updated on May 30th, 2025 at 01:57 am
Why I'm No Longer Afraid to Start Again. And Again.
There was a time when the very idea of starting over made my stomach turn. I’d sit at the edge of yet another chapter’s end, feeling the weight of everything I thought I should have figured out by now. I’d hear the whispers—internal and external—that said I was too old, too late, too far gone to try again. But somewhere between the tears and the silence that followed, I realized something powerful: starting over is not a failure. It’s a choice. And more than that, it’s a sacred act of self-love.
I’m no longer afraid to begin again. In fact, I now see it as one of the most courageous things a woman can do because it flies in the face of everything that the world wants women to believe they can’t do.
". . .starting over is not a failure. It’s a choice. And more than that, it’s a sacred act of self-love."
The Freedom of Surrender
Let’s release the shame of starting over. Starting again isn’t failure—it’s freedom. It’s a deliberate, conscious decision that calls you to tap into a strength and confidence you may not have even known lived within you. Trying again requires courage and an unbreakable belief that the best is yet to come. You’re not just picking up the pieces—you’re shaping something new. Something more aligned. Something that feels like truth.
You begin to forgive yourself—I mean *truly* forgive yourself—not with shame but with grace. Not with judgment but with compassion. You stop rehearsing the same old narratives about who you used to be or what you should have done differently. You take a deep breath and give yourself permission to change the story. You become the main character, no longer waiting for permission to be powerful. You are power. And it radiates from your willingness to break cycles that your ancestors only dreamed of ending.
When I Chose the Unfamiliar Path
Making the decision to walk away from a life I had spent over two decades building—my marriage, our home, the routines that had shaped my days—was not a choice I made lightly. I packed up our life, sold the house, and moved to a new city with my five children, without a job and with no clear plan for what came next.
There were moments when I was absolutely terrified—moments that rattled me to my core. But even in that fear, I knew one thing for certain: I couldn’t stay in a life that looked fine from the outside but left me feeling like I was merely surviving each day.
I craved rest. I craved the softness and power of my divine feminine energy. Instead, I was living in constant overdrive—managing the house, the finances, the appointments, the planning. I had become the center of everyone else’s world, yet I felt invisible in my own. I was tired of hearing myself ask for the same things over and over, only to be met with empty promises and no real change.
My needs were always last on the list, and resentment began to bloom in the quiet corners of my heart.
When I reached that fork in the road, I saw two distinct paths before me.
One was unfamiliar, wild, and uncertain—but when I looked ahead, I felt something stir deep within me, as if distant whispers were calling me home to myself. The other path looped back into the life I knew. I could see my own footprints marking every step of that well-worn trail. It felt safe. Familiar. But I also knew that if I chose that path again, I’d be walking in circles, never truly free.
And so, I chose the unknown. Not because I wasn’t afraid—but because I finally believed I was worth the risk.
"But even in that fear, I knew one thing for certain: I couldn’t stay in a life that looked fine from the outside but left me feeling like I was merely surviving each day."
You’re Starting From Wisdom, Not Scratch
What I’ve learned is that starting over doesn’t mean wiping the slate clean and forgetting everything behind you. It means taking the lessons, the heartbreaks, the miracles, and the moments that cracked you open—and using them as fuel. This is not a fresh start from emptiness. This is a reclaimed beginning from wholeness. You’re starting from alignment. Alignment with who you came to this earth to be.
You’ve gathered wisdom. You’ve cultivated resilience. You’ve survived chapters you never thought you would. You’ve been divinely prepared. So now, when you start again, you’re doing it from a place of knowing. Of alignment. Of choosing who you want to be—not based on someone else’s timeline or expectations, but based on your own deep, divine truth.
The Woman You’re Becoming
When your heart and soul are guiding you toward change, there’s a shift. Something stirs within you, calling you to remember. To remember the version of yourself you buried under obligations, roles, and stories that no longer fit. This new beginning is your return to your essence, your desires, your joy.
You begin to set boundaries—not out of bitterness, but out of clarity that protect your peace and your power. You speak your truth—not to please, but to live authentically. You stop shrinking and start shining. You let go of the chains, the guilt, the “shoulds,” and you rise—not because you never fell, but because you decided to stand back up with grace.
And let me tell you this: Do not be afraid to fall. Because the rise is spectacular.
A Love Letter to You
If you are standing at the edge of a new beginning—uncertain, trembling, maybe even afraid—I want you to know this: you are not alone. You are not broken. And you are not behind.
You are right on time.
This is your moment to become the woman you were always meant to be. To create a life rooted in joy, ease, beauty, success, abundance and loving relationships. To tap into your divine feminine energy and feel the freedom that comes with being fully, unapologetically you.
So don’t be afraid to start again. And again. And again, if you need to.
Because each time you do, you rise higher. You rise stronger. You rise truer.
And that, Queen, is the kind of transformation that changes everything.
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Yes I believe this is a season to start again for many women in their lives. It can be overwhelming and scary at the same time, but to know you are not alone in this helps. Thanks again for sharing your experiences and thoughts with transparency and authenticity. I like that it’s workable and it’s you telling your story.