When Starting Over Means Stumbling First
A few months ago, I was recording content for the Simone Dress in heels. I was feeling myself, confident, in flow. And then… I tripped. Not a little slip, but one of those awkward stumbles that leaves you laughing at yourself uncontrollably before you can even think about being embarrassed.
Here’s the thing: a few years ago, that stumble would’ve wrecked me. I would’ve deleted the footage, labeled myself clumsy, and spiraled into self-criticism. I would’ve let the story of “not good enough” take over.
But here’s the gift of midlife: I’ve learned that stumbling doesn’t mean stopping.
Instead of hiding, I laughed. I pressed record again. I started over and kept the video for a blooper reel.
Because starting over isn’t failure. It’s freedom.
Midlife Reinvention Means Letting Yourself Begin Again
At 47, I’ve stumbled more times than I can count. I’ve been through heartbreak, financial struggles, generational patterns, and the unraveling of a marriage after 20+ years. For a long time, I thought those stumbles meant I had failed.
But what I’ve come to realize is this: every stumble has been a doorway into the woman I was always meant to be.
Whether it’s:
- Falling out of an old identity that no longer fits.
- Stepping away from a relationship that doesn’t align with your authentic self.
- Or literally tripping in heels while bringing to life the vision of your next chapter.
Every stumble carries an invitation to pause, reset, and move forward with more wisdom.
Choosing Yourself Over “Good Enough”
So many of us midlife women are conditioned to settle. To stay in “good enough” marriages, “good enough” jobs, or “good enough” versions of ourselves because the world told us that’s all we could hope for.
But here’s the truth: settling keeps us small.
Choosing yourself means being willing to look a little messy, to trip on the way, to laugh through the awkward moments, and to keep showing up anyway.
That’s what self-love looks like. That’s what feminine power feels like. And that’s what midlife reinvention is all about. Remembering that it’s never too late to begin again.
You’re Never Too Late for Your Own Becoming
Queen, don’t ever believe the lie that you’ve missed your chance. You can never be late for your own becoming.
Your journey may include many stumbles, and maybe even a fall or two, but those stumbles are proof you’re moving. Proof you’re alive. Proof you’re choosing yourself over settling for good enough.
And if you’re standing at the edge of a new chapter, rather it’s divorce, a career shift, empty nest, or simply the quiet knowing that your life needs to change—hear me when I say this: starting over is not the end. It’s the beginning.
If you’re ready to stop settling for “good enough” and start choosing yourself, stay close. This space is for you.
